Wednesday, January 6, 2016

Post#30 PART 2 of the SELF STUDY! The Married Version!



Post #30 Part two. The Married Self Study! And now you all know how much I weigh! LOL!
DONE! The Married Self study. Only 1 hour to complete as many of the questions were the same as the self study. Making progress! Duane got his done as well and filled out our application, therefore speeding up the process! Then we ran out of ink in the printer! But after digging around,  I miraculously found the blue and black ink we needed in a drawer! So we were able to print them out! 

Post #29 Answering some questions - HOMESTUDY 1-6-16

Post #29 1-6-16

 Need a laugh? We will provide one. Some of the questions they ask on home study paperwork. Really? 
https://www.facebook.com/melissa.a.carter.31/videos/10208342968835493/

Tuesday, January 5, 2016

SELF STUDY LOCK IN! Post #28 1-5-16

Post #28 
Whew! I did it! Three hours of locking myself in my room, and one headache and hurting hand from writing so much, I finished the self study for the adoption home study! 

A mountain of Paperwork Post #27 1-5-15



Here goes! Starting to work on the 100+ pages to fill out for the home study and adoption paperwork!

Monday, December 28, 2015

Adoption update #26 A Switch



post #26
Well, its been a while since my last post. Life has kinda been busy with the holidays and adding 2 new teens. Now that we are up to 4 teens in the house and our son is home from college. Its been the "life is a party, throw out boundaries kinda thing going on a round here! " Anyway, all of us are adjusting. We had an awesome Christmas and are looking forward to a great 2016.
On the adoption front, nothing much has progressed except to say that we are changing home study agencies. Our other home study agency was great but they were located all the way in S. Cali and having a SW travel all the up here for home visits was going to be costly and there were a few other issues that were making accomplishing somethings difficult - on our part. 
So it came across our paths of a new agency in the Sacramento area that could do our home study and who would accept our past training and experience. 
Its going to allow us to complete the home study quicker and in the long run less expensively even though we are losing money on leaving the other agency. I am glad this is working out and it makes me a little excited to get it going. 
Also, on a side note, one of our friends got their I600a approval for immigration in a little less than 2 weeks and that is encouraging news. 
We can't start that process until our home study is complete. Please continue to pray for the finances as well.  Once we get the home study completed, we can start applying for some grants and donations towards our adoptions. Duane will have to make 1 short trip to Uganda with me and I will hopefully only make one staying til the adoption is completed to avoid two trips. We are wanting to take the rest of the kids with us to Uganda. We think it will do a few of them good to see others from their past and where they came from. So we are praying about that as well. We appreciate your prayers and will keep you updated.

Thursday, December 10, 2015

Loved 12-10-15






Post #25  12-10-15
This post is not exactly about our current adoption but it is about adoption nonetheless and the bonding of a child who I would have loved to have birthed. I posted it on my FB page but thought I would share it here. Though I did not bring him into our family through birth, my heart and my mind forgets that minor detail. I feel like I KNOW him, that he knows me.
I wrote this this past Sunday 12-6-15 -
The music floats through the air, the lyrics ringing true to the heart -
"Jesus you have won me, you have broken every chain with love and mercy"
This morning as worship started, sitting in our seats, Isaiah grabbed me, pulling me close, putting my head on his chest. How can I resist this moment of tenderness and love being offered so I follow his lead. Stroking my hair, giving me kisses, he speaks in whispers that can only be understood by angels in heaven, he prays over his mama. The love I am overwhelmed with is enormous. This feeling of being loved in a very deep way is unspeakable. It is my reward. This child, left for dead, has been resurrected. Love and Mercy. It breaks every chain. Jesus won his heart, I've won his heart. He's had mine before I ever laid eyes on him. I am blessed. I am his mother.

Monday, December 7, 2015

Update on Boys Joining Us. 12-07-15 Post #24

Post #24 12-07-15
Just a short update: The boys are adjusting well. They seem relaxed. Typically, this is the honeymoon stage where we all get used to each other and this time we are speaking that it is going to be our norm. That it will continue. It is peaceful. The other kids have just embraced them and it is beautiful to see. On the the second day, they both called me "Mom" and then Duane, "Dad". This was completely unexpected this soon. But my heart loves that they feel safe enough to do this. We won't lie, we almost said no to taking in these boys. We knew what it would entail and what it meant. There would be rough days ahead. But then God.... the way he does things, you know, He waits.  He waits for his compassion and love to do their thing, because in the past, we had already said we were willing if God highlighted one of his little ones that needed hope.  So we said yes. We said yes, with some fear. 
But we were brave. We stepped out of our comfort zone. 
Was it easy? No. but Yes. With Grace. With His Love. This song by Misty Edwards came on Pandora today. 
"I knew what I was getting into, and I still want you, I knew what I was getting into and I still chose you.... Cuz only I can see the end from the beginning.
And only I can see where this is going.
And only I can see the end from the beginning.
And I see in you the seeds of love.
And I see in you strength when all you see is your failure and all you feel is ashamed.
I can see deeper than that.
I know you better than that.
I knew what I was getting into when I said your name."
I love the lyrics because God knows what he's getting into when he sees that orphan who is wounded. He knows and he still does it. I want to be like that. Confident that Love wins. All the time.




Friday, December 4, 2015

I am MOM! Again! 12-04-15

Post#23 : 2:00 am : They are here. Once again, emotionally, I feel like I've given birth. I'm tired. I'm content. I'm peaceful. They are ok.

Thursday, December 3, 2015

Becoming Mom again SUDDENLY Post #22 12-3-15

Some previous post had to be only posted to our FB group. 
Post #22 
In about 1 hour, I am about to become mother to two Teenage boys from Africa. 

Surprise! 

God sometimes will provide opportunities to love someone else at the most unexpected times.  Because at one point in your life you told God that you were willing to love orphans and those wounded. The opportunities definitely do not come at convenient times or work around your schedule. That's for sure! Ha! But oh well! We will just go with it! 

Yesterday, I kinda had an emotional meltdown like when you are about to get married and all you want to do is runaway or quit or something! I had fears that I wasn't going to be able to mother these two. I had fears of rejection, of failure. But deep breathes and a call to a friend and all was back to being "normal" again. 

Funny, I know their name, but I don't know their birthday, I don't even know what they look like, but I do know I am willing to love them. This was a tenacious fight to seek justice for two kids these last few weeks, and God's kept his eye on them for some time. Glad they can experience something good for a while. I'm glad I get to see what God is gonna do in their lives.

Monday, November 30, 2015

Laying Under The Christmas Tree

I am laying under the live Christmas tree writing this. Why, you might ask?

Well, I went to water our beautiful tree and the smell of the White Fir needles immediately made me feel relaxed. So, I decided to write this blog from under the tree.  In dealing daily with essential oils, I learned that White Fir is a grounding oil.  It leaves you feeling emotionally stable and strong enough to weather the storms.  I had forgotten this, but God reminded me of it this morning as I was watering the tree.

 I  feel a storm and I needed to think clearly, so laying there seemed like a good idea, otherwise parts of this blog that have been in my head for several days may very well have offended you, had I written them in my overwhelmed state.

I must have been in the eye of the storm for that short period of time because I got only to this paragraph in writing under the tree before I got a phone call from my 23 year old son who totally had a crisis that he expected me to iron out for him. I'm so glad I was under the tree, otherwise......

 So what is this storm? Probably nothing, but today it feels real. It feels like tornado clouds gathering up strength to blow me away. I know what that is like in real life and that just ain't fun.  



Well, here it is 12 hours later and this blog post is very unfinished.  In fact I am so tired that I really don't remember what I was going to write about...... so tomorrow maybe I will remember.  For now, I'll just close my eyes.

   Later..... much Later.... like a month later......
I do not remember what this blog is supposed to be about, except that I was kinda feeling in a whirlwind and needed some peace to settle in and for the 1st time in awhile, I was alone by myself. In silence..... until my phone would not stop ringing. Multiple times.....
So here is what you get to know.....                
In reality, I am not a calm, serene person.  I am animated, I am very passionate about what I believe to be truth. That is not saying that God does not give me a warehouse full of Grace. I know he does because without it, I would be just a crazy person in the wrong way.  It is only because of this Grace, I am able to use it with my kids when they become unregulated.  I am not saying that I am always calm, cool and collected when my kids get triggered, need some motivation to be obedient or just kick into gear with attitude. But for the most part, I have gained an arsenal of tools over the past years to help me in parenting my once orphan children who have suffered terrible things in their past.

But there are some days that I feel overwhelmed and caught up in a tornado. And it is ok. I am a TREE planted by the water of Life. My roots run deep. I am strong through the storm.


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